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Sex & Emotions
Emotions go hand in hand with sex. When someone
is feeling vulnerable, insecure or pressured they might resort to
sex to fill their vulnerability. This will always fail. In fact,
sexual intercourse can make you much more vulnerable, by putting
your complete trust in your partner, and exposing your feelings.
Some people usually those who are promiscuous are able to have sex
without emotion, for the pure physical pleasure. Others find that
their most amazing sexual experiences occur when they feel closest
to the one they love. Some people use sex as a weapon or leverage
to get what they want. Others use sex to enrich their life in a
mutually loving relationship. Others use sex like a drug to temporarily
make themselves feel better. There really is no way to have sex
and be completely invulnerable to emotional distress. Sex opens
people up for major heart breaks. In addition to the physical implications
of sex, you should always consider the emotional consequences for
you as well as your partner before deciding to have sex.
Those who have sexual intercourse for any of the
following reasons, are extremely more likely to regret the experience.
To prove something:
The only thing sex could prove is that you are weak enough to let
the opinions of others dictate what you do with your body. What
others think won't make you a better stronger person.
To ease your
depression or improve your self-esteem: It won't. It
will leave you feeling used and only will succeed in further damaging
your self-esteem.
To make you
more wise or mature: It won't. Wisdom and maturity can
be measured by how intelligently and responsible you act. Using
your body as a tool to gain wisdom is cheap and foolish. First use
your mind, and understand that the people who try to make you feel
insecure by boasting about their sex life, invariably have little
to boast about. They most often are trying to make up for their
own insecurities, and unfortunately are sacrificing their integrity
by doing so.
To make someone
love you: It won't. If someone prefers chocolate ice
cream over vanilla, you can't make them like chocolate ice cream
by giving them lots and lots of vanilla. If someone doesn't
love you, they still won't love you after you expose your deepest
emotions and feelings to them as you do when having sex. There are
around 250 million people in the U.S. alone. This person is not
the only person you will meet and fall in love with. Wait for someone
you love, who also loves you back.
To hurt someone
else: You will probably be the one who gets hurt in the end.
The person you are trying to hurt will only realize how low you
can stoop. It's easy to get over someone you don't admire,
thus it will be easy for them to get over you.

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