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Sex in the Media
Thanks to the media and its brigade of billboards,
soap operas, cinema, videos, lyrics, Internet, magazines, etc. sex
is everywhere only controlled somewhat by the bounds of decency
as imposed by the local government. As a common practice to promote
one's business, sex is represented in an idealistic form using
the following recipe: Add one gorgeous male with an incredible body
and an impressive penis size Add one or two gorgeous females with
incredible bodies and impressive breasts Finally add the ability
to copulate at anytime anywhere without any consequences. This is
not reality!
Well sex isn't always depicted
in this manner. However, sex in the media certainly carries with
it certain ideals to which we are attracted. If sex in the media
weren't on average better than that of its viewers, we wouldn't
feel the need to buy the product advertised, watch the show, or
listen to the music. Because of these ideal depictions of sex some
sexual partners, while comparing their own more realistic sex life,
might feel inadequate or sexually unfulfilled.
In reality each of us is different,
and a truly satisfying sex life usually takes time to develop Ð
First of all you need time to explore your own sexual turn-ons through
masturbation and daydreaming or fantasizing. Then you need time
to explore and learn about your partner's sexual desires as
your partner learns about you.
People's sexual desires can
vary by...
- How easily they orgasm
- The amount of lubrication
one produces
- Which parts of their genitals
are the most sensitive
- How they like to be handled
during sex
- The positions they prefer
- The fantasies they have
- The amount of trust they
need to feel comfortable.
- The list goes on and on...
Because of these differences that
make all of us unique, a first time sexual encounter is usually
never as natural or effortless as it is depicted in the media.
Porn
Unfortunately with the secrecy
of sexual discussion in society, porno becomes an educational tool.
Techniques such as how to stimulate a woman's vulva or how to
perform oral sex can be learned from porno. If you're not sure
how to stimulate a woman, watching how one woman stimulates another
can be very helpful. If your not sure how to perform oral sex well,
watching porn could give you some helpful information. Often it
is easier for someone to learn a skill when they see it being demonstrated.
We are very visually oriented beings, so certainly we can learn
techniques from porn. However, the problem with "porno sex education"
is that the fantasy in porn can be mistaken for the reality on earth.
Porn was created as entertainment. It is no closer to reality than
"Star Trek." The likelihood for two strangers to meet, have sex
1 minute later without protection, and miraculously avoid STDs or
pregnancy is unrealistic. Porno completely ignores any risk involved
in the activities they depict. Protection is never used. Emotions
are never involved. People are never hurt. Nobody ever gets pregnant
and nobody contracts a sexually transmitted disease. Porn is made
this way to maximize their entertainment value.
Before someone can star in a porno,
they must go through a process. They are tested for all kinds of
sexually transmitted diseases. Women are always on the pill, or
the stars have been diagnosed as infertile. Every participant is
required to sign a form, which agrees to not hold the production
company responsible for any health risks. Plus most everyone that
participates in a porno has the ability to have sex without emotional
consequences. It's too bad every one in reality doesn't
go through this selection process. In reality, the person you're
with could have a sexually transmitted disease, could be lying to
you about their sexual history, could be very emotionally vulnerable,
could get pregnant, and will hold you responsible for your actions.
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