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There! With that click of the mouse, you've already
taken a step to achieve a better life. You took action and sought
information, both of which are vital to achieving a better life.
This section shows you how to achieve the life you want, by setting
goals, consistently taking action and forming behaviors that bring
you closer to your goal until you reach it.
Before we start we must fill you in on some VERY IMPORTANT
guidelines concerning human behavior and secrets for success. These
guidelines as well as the steps we are about to explain to you can
be applied to overcome any obstacle. This information is based on
human behavior and the rules that govern life. The rules of human
behavior do not apply only to one aspect of your life. They apply
to all aspects of your life. And once you gain the skill to change
one behavior to overcome one obstacle, you can use that skill to
change other behaviors and to overcome other obstacles. The more
you exercise this skill the better you will become at improving
your life.
Make sure you understand these
guidelines before moving on. In fact make sure you understand every
section before moving on. This is a system. Every part depends on
the rest of the system to work.
Educate Yourself
Exploring sources of information is an important step to achieving
what you want out of life. One of the reasons humans have been able
to accomplish such amazing achievements, is that we have recorded
everything we've learned over thousands of years. A wealth of information
is available in books, the Internet, educational programs, CD ROM,
etc. Although it might have taken a lifetime of effort, trial and
error by the person who discovered the information, it takes only
reading, watching and listening for you to acquire the same knowledge.
So once you set a goal. Get educated on the field. Any bit of knowledge
can give you an edge. If you need to lose weight, read our section
on weight control. If you're considering
whether to quit a drug read the facts on that drug and on addiction
under our drug section. Educating yourself
is an ongoing process that lasts your whole life. It is a positive
behavior that can help you reach your goals.
Role Modeling
This is part of the education process. Find someone who has accomplished
what you want to accomplish, and follow their example. Don't waste
your time by "reinventing the wheel." Do some research.
Find a role model. Study records of their life and how they reached
their goal. If they're still around, get to know them and ask for
their advice. Some people are flattered when asked for advice, and
will feel good about helping you accomplish your goal.
Healthy Perspective
Gain and maintain an empowering perspective.
Perspective is for most people something they don't control. When
they spill a bowl of chili on the white carpet they get furious.
When someone keys their car they become irate. When someone dies
of a disease, then their little problems don't seem so bad for a
while. However, with just a little time, they may quickly slip back
into their old perspective, screaming and punching the wall when
they stub their toe.
If you want to take control of your life. You must
gain control over your perspective, because your perspective controls
your attitude. Whatever unfortunate event happens to you and whatever
type of suffering you may experience, there is always an example
of someone else who has suffered to the same degree or tremendously
more and has emerged victorious. Acknowledging this, can make your
experience seem a lot more manageable.
Your actions direct the actions
of others toward you.
The golden rule: "Do unto others as you would have them do
unto you." The part they forgot was, "because if you don't,
they'll do unto you the crap that you've done unto everybody else!"
If you are a mean person, people won't feel bad about
being mean to you. If you break the rules that your parents laid
out, they will tighten their hold on your freedom. If you spread
harmful gossip about others, they will not want to associate with
you. If you treat others, their properties and their neighborhoods
with no respect, then they will never treat you with respect.
Whether we like it or not, we interact with other
people almost every single day of our lives. This is the result
of the tightly pact population we live in. Because of this our daily
experience is powerfully effected by the way others treat us. Human
behavior ensures that they will treat us similarly to how we treat
them or how they heard we treated someone else. Word gets around
extremely quickly and reputations spread like wildfire because we
are such a highly social species. Because of this, the people who
survive and who do well are not the people who out-bully others.
They are the people that are widely loved and respected; the people
who get along with the rest of the population. Successful people
are supported by the people around them because of the positive
way they treat people in general. You might temporarily attract
attention or improve your spot on the popularity totem pole at the
expense of someone else. But, without exception, your actions will
cause someone to return the favor to you. It's very simple. You
can shape the actions of others toward you, by shaping your actions
toward others.
If you understand this rule of life. You understand
that you do have power. You understand that you don't have to be
a victim. You can take action to positively influence your life.
You can act a certain way to convince your parents to give you a
little more freedom. You can act a certain way so that people will
like your personality. You can act a certain way to convince your
teacher to give you a better grade. Every action you make is an
opportunity to induce positive support from the world around you.
When you understand this and you recognize it throughout your day,
you are in control of your life. You have one of the powers you
need to succeed.
Please, take these points seriously. We do not mean
to tell you what to do. We are simply letting you know that life
works a certain way for all of us. Certain things work and certain
things don't. Now for a pep talk!
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